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Bathing Beauty

April 26, 2012 by Beth Rontal Leave a Comment

This Bathing Beauty is breathtaking. Safety, security, trust and pleasure at its core.

Filed Under: Hope, Mindfulness, Motivation

Don’t Believe Diets Don’t Work? Try This.

November 5, 2011 by Beth Rontal 2 Comments

Don’t Believe Diets Don’t Work? Try This…

Many people have heard that diets don’t work but have a hard believing it even though they’ve tried and failed many times.  Diets don’t work for all the reasons that I wrote about in my July post called, “It Makes Sense to be Confused About Diets.” Briefly:

  • Diets end because they are based on deprivation
  • Deprivation is unsustainable
  • Willpower fades because it’s an imposition of your determination to restrict your food over a natural desire to eat

An intellectual understanding of why diets don’t work can’t compare with knowing it on an experiential level; not by “failing” at dieting but simply by breathing.

If you’re adventurous, try this 30 second exercise to get a firsthand experience of what happens after you deprive yourself of food. … Ready?

Take a really really deep breath.  (Think of it as bingeing on air.)

Then blow it out… more,

more…

more…

and even more…

until you have not an ounce of breath left.

Now hold your breath for 10 seconds or until you just can’t hold it anymore.

Now… breathe… finally.

Notice what happened? What kind of breath did you take?  If you found yourself taking a really really deep breath in an attempt to replenish what was missing, you just experienced how your body reacts to a diet.

You have to eat just like you have to breathe.  Diets end because they are based on deprivation and deprivation is unsustainable — just like depriving yourself of air is unsustainable.

You can’t hold your breath indefinitely no matter how determined – just like when it comes to food, your willpower fades because it’s an attempt to restrict your food over a natural and perfectly normal desire to eat.

So if diets don’t work and weight loss or maintainance is important, what do you do?  Read “It Makes Sense to be Confused About Diets” (found under “Mindful Eating”) as a start on your journey to learning how to eat in a way that feeds you body and soul.

Filed Under: Binge Eating, Mindful Eating, Mindfulness

Stop Fighting the Pain

August 28, 2011 by Beth Rontal Leave a Comment

Stop fighting the pain! Sound crazy?  Yes — but it works.  If you can be present with the pain, it won’t hurt as much.  Here are two examples…

I recently visited a friend in the hospital who had two operations to alleviate debilitating back pain he’d had for three years.  After the second operation, he was in, “More pain than I’ve ever been in –magnified by 10.” As one point during our visit he turned inside and tuned me out to fight the pain.  I got his attention, looked him straight in the eye and repeated several times in a steady and calm voice, “It hurts.  The pain is real.  You’re not making this up.  You can get through this.  Keep acknowledging the pain.  Don’t fight it, resist it or try to will it away.  It’s real and it hurts.”

Within moments of talking to him like this, the extreme force of the pain subsided to a relatively manageable level and the color, which had blanched from his face, returned.  Later during our conversation, the pain overtook him and again, we locked eyes while I repeated what I’d said earlier.  Again, the pain subsided and the color returned to his face.

I had a similar but thankfully, less intense experience myself.  I was getting deep tissue body work that hurt so much I let rip countless four letter words until I realized that cursing wasn’t relieving the pain of the treatment.  In fact, it was worse.

The massage therapist reminded me to acknowledge the pain the way I acknowledged it with my friend at the hospital.  The very next moment the pain was gone and I could tolerate the deep work with ease.  It simply didn’t hurt, which shocked me because the therapist said he was exerting the same amount of pressure as before.

It could have been that I relaxed so the muscles weren’t tight and I’m sure that had something to do with it.  But the irony is, the more you hate the pain, whether physical or emotional, the worse it gets. Pain plays an important funtion in our lives, giving us important information.  It’s there for a reason and will scream until it’s heard.

It works this way with cravings as well.  The next time you have a craving, instead of attempting to deny it (which works great, right?) wishing it would go away (that doesn’t work too well either!) — accept and listen to it.  Name and be curious about it.  Wonder, with an open mind, why it’s bothered to settle in your body/mind.

Try, “It’s true I’m having this craving right now.  It’s intense.  I want it (the food you crave).  I’m worried it will never go away.  I think I’ve got to have it now.”

Or try to imagine this craving as if it was a separate person while you acknowledge and listent to its point of view and concerns.  What if you asked, “what does this craving think would happen to me if it didn’t get what it wants right now?”

You may be quite surprised that what is wanted and needed is a hug, a kind word, or some rest.  If you’re truly curious and open, you may be in for a pleasant surprise as you get answers you didn’t expect and the pain desolves.

This is the gift of mindfulness. Try it.  You might like it.

Filed Under: Cravings, Mindfulness

Get Service

August 4, 2011 by Beth Rontal Leave a Comment

Get Service

I have often thought that we get so caught up in our own daily needs and worries that it’s easy to misinterpret the actions of others.  How many times have I felt like the guy in this video?  This next 4.5 minutes is eye opening. 

Filed Under: Mindfulness

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